Correct and incorrect comparisons



There is a saying in America: Compare and despair! Many language students suffer, because the compare themselves with others.

Comparing yourself with others is part of human nature. As social animals, we want to know our place in the hierarchy. Dogs and monkeys do it, too.

There are productive and unproductive comparisons. Unproductive comparisons lead to failure. Language students give up completely. Productive comparisons lead to excellent performance.

Here is my theory: horizontal comparisons are bad, vertical comparisons are good.

What are horizontal comparisons? When you compare yourself with people from your own category.  If I as a German compare myself with other Germans that speak foreign languages. If you compare yourself with your classmates. The result is often: envy, frustration, feelings of injustice. You may want to avoid being in a class if the others students speak better than you do.

What are vertical comparisons? There are two types. You compare yourself with yourself; how you were yesterday, a week ago, a month ago, and one year ago. As long as you have improved, everything is fine.

And: you can compare yourself with someone from another category. With a native English speaker, for example. This way you will have a good role model, but you will not feel envy.

Carol Dweck’s theories: fixed versus growth mindsets


A general understanding that our intelligence and ability in the area of languages (and not only) is malleable and therefore learnable: This is what Stanford psychology professor Carol Dweck calls a ”growth mindset”.

The opposite of that would be a ”fixed mindset”. With a fixed mindset, we think and say things like:
·         ”Everybody is born with a certain amount of talent regarding languages.”
·         ”Putting in effort into learning can change that only to a very limited amount.”

Having a fixed vs. a growth mindset has been proven to affect several aspects of learning. With a fixed mindset, effort becomes an indicator that we lack talent: ”If I need to make an effort, it means I am not good at it”. Since people with a fixed mindset do not believe in the possibility of substantial improvement, they care much more about their self-image. They want others to get the impression that they are smart, and to avoid making a fool of themselves.

During their life, they will therefore choose tasks they can easily and visibly excel in. They will avoid challenging learning situations with the risk of failure. They will try to create the impression that they do things effortlessly. In the area of language, they may lie about how long they really have already been learning a certain language. I had quite a few students who during the presentation round in the first lesson of a new course told the group they had started just some weeks a ago to learn German; later, it surfaced that, in fact, they had been at it for several years.

With a fixed mindset, we avoid negative feedback that threatens our self-image. We seek, however, for easy compliments. We therefore put all our efforts into becoming perfect in some limited areas, where we most easily impress strangers. We may become great in making small talk with the perfect intonation and pronunciation, learning phrases by heart.

That is a reasonable strategy, because most conversations with foreigners last only a few seconds or minutes. We make sure that we ”collect” as many kind words and encouragements as possible. ”Your English is EXCELLENT.”

However, if we are put to a test, our knowledge has stayed quite superficial after many years. Every foreigner we meet compliments us on our great XYZ. However, we cannot read books, understand talk shows or sustain a longer conversation.

The ”fixed mindset” strategy is visible also in the choice of learning tasks. Most of us left school having been trained in visual learning. We are accustomed to black and white boards, PowerPoint presentations, books and notepads. When starting with a new language, we often avoid audio-only exercises because we feel ”uncomfortable” with them. We say, we will do them ”later on”, as soon as we have mastered the new language through mostly visual learning. Many students postpone working with challenging audio materials for many years, because they never feel they are ready to take the ”jump”. Visual learning becomes an easy addiction, supported also by an increasing number of smartphone apps.

Then there are the clever ones with a fixed mindset that cite body language experts and scientific studies that state that the human mind processes 90% visual cues.

It is no coincidence that many ”audio-oriented” crafts seem to disappear from children’s upbringing (like music education, which itself has become infected with visual orientation first).

The fact remains that humans (except for the hearing impaired) communicate using sounds. So we need to orient our language training toward listening and speaking, whether we find that difficult at the beginning or not.

Setbacks and criticism leads to different reactions in students with a growth or fixed mindset. The latter will tend to drop out early on. They will try to diffuse negative feedback, finding excuses and blaming others or “a lack of time”.
Students with a growth mindset will take setbacks as a challenge. They are thrilled to learn something new.

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Psychologist and language teacher, from Hamburg /Germany (*1979). Married, one son. MA in psychology from the University of Hamburg. More than 15 years of experience as a university lecturer in psychology as well as a consultant for UNICEF, Terre des Hommes, IOM, the EU and private companies. Speaks 21 languages.

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